To kneel or not to kneel? That’s the new Shakespearean question of the day. And while people from both sides of the issue are passionate about their position, our society has missed the point.
To pee standing up or sitting down as a man or woman is another matter we’ve mishandled. And while that debate has lost steam in the news and the pews, the real problem hasn’t disappeared.
I have an opinion on the situations above and hundreds of other subjects. And I’m sure you do as well. But I’m less concerned about convincing you of my beliefs than I am of being human.
Both of these men were willing to do what the majority of Americans will not—use their voice to bring value to the feelings of others. Especially those who feel overlooked and marginalized.
DOES DISAGREEMENT HAVE TO MEAN DIVISION?
Most controversies could be settled if we learned how to empathize with one another. We don’t even have to agree with each other to understand how it feels to hurt as a fellow human being.
My office is a revolving door of desperation. And while I might have strong opinions on how people get themselves into the most peculiar circumstances, I exercise restraint to not pass judgment.
I’ve had my fair share of problems in life. And there have been many times I’ve stood alone and longed for support. So have you. Instead of being critical about what people do, we should focus on the why.
Why is a question that builds bridges in a world where we seem to prefer to construct walls. Perhaps we could use a Dr. Stephen Covey refresher, “Seek first to understand, then be understood.”
We don’t have to agree with each other to understand how it feels to hurt as a fellow human being. #empathyepidemicClick to tweet
Until we stop proving our point, we’ll continue to miss the point regardless of the issue. Take a knee. Or don’t. It doesn’t matter. Learning to listen is the first step to healing pain and division.
And that’s the real issue.