Kneel or Don’t Kneel

Why We Seem to Always Miss the Point

To kneel or not to kneel? That’s the new Shakespearean question of the day. And while people from both sides of the issue are passionate about their position, our society has missed the point.

Timothy Eldred | Kneel or Don't Kneel

To pee standing up or sitting down as a man or woman is another matter we’ve mishandled. And while that debate has lost steam in the news and the pews, the real problem hasn’t disappeared.

I have an opinion on the situations above and hundreds of other subjects. And I’m sure you do as well. But I’m less concerned about convincing you of my beliefs than I am of being human.

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Colin Kaepernick first knelt alone to take a stand. Alejandro Villanueva stood alone for those who fell. I don’t have to agree with either of them to fully understand and support their decisions.

Both of these men were willing to do what the majority of Americans will not—use their voice to bring value to the feelings of others. Especially those who feel overlooked and marginalized.

DOES DISAGREEMENT HAVE TO MEAN DIVISION?

Most controversies could be settled if we learned how to empathize with one another. We don’t even have to agree with each other to understand how it feels to hurt as a fellow human being.

My office is a revolving door of desperation. And while I might have strong opinions on how people get themselves into the most peculiar circumstances, I exercise restraint to not pass judgment.

I’ve had my fair share of problems in life. And there have been many times I’ve stood alone and longed for support. So have you. Instead of being critical about what people do, we should focus on the why.

Why is a question that builds bridges in a world where we seem to prefer to construct walls. Perhaps we could use a Dr. Stephen Covey refresher, “Seek first to understand, then be understood.”

Until we stop proving our point, we’ll continue to miss the point regardless of the issue. Take a knee. Or don’t. It doesn’t matter. Learning to listen is the first step to healing pain and division.

And that’s the real issue.

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  • Raquel Zike

    I also see both sides I feel that as a nation we need to stand together look past race color sexual orientation and so on. But just protesting is not going to be enough these days people who are protesting something also need to come up with a soulution toward fixing the issues and work together with others You can always agree to disagree but you also have the ability to find a common ground to start a foundation toward a goal. Never going to be easy but lead with positivity!!! And if you try an fail just keep trying we have come a long way but nobody is perfect everyone can try to do better at something !

    • I couldn’t agree more, Rachel. Thanks for sharing your opinion. I feel like you’re going to be on of those voices who build bridges and start changing the conversation. Please let me know the results of your willingness to go beyond the surface to do hard things and have real conversations.