3 Truths to Overcoming Your Fears
REPLACE YOUR ASSUMPTIONS AND CHANGE YOUR REALITY
We all have fears. But most of the fears we carry around have been fabricated. In reality, they're only a figment of our imagination. And when we recognize that truth, we're one step closer to letting them go and living with authenticity as our true selves.
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I love learning new things from unexpected people and places. As I grow older, that is becoming easier as I learn to care less and realize I don’t have to be the authority.
In reality, I have never been the smartest person in the room. That was just an illusion I told myself to overcome my fear of feeling overlooked, discounted, and unworthy.
All of those self-effacing thoughts have haunted me for much of my life. They still do today as well, but I’m learning how to overcome them, and I want to help you, too.
This is especially true for many people who have not learned to be honest with themselves enough to recognize or acknowledge the same struggles I face.
Today on my podcast, I spent time talking about being paralyzed by fear which is typically based on false assumptions we make about ourselves and about others.
Are you aware that nearly everything you tell yourself is an assumption? Why? Because we have a powerful imagination that conjures up stories and believes them.
It’s easy to assume what others are thinking or saying about us and then play them over in our minds until they become true—even though they were only imagined.
Pause for a moment to ponder whether or not you’ve ever done something like that. Of course, you have. But there’s no shame—everyone does—but no one needs to…
…Now, there are many causes for fears that I will address later. Today, I simply want to focus for a few minutes on how making assumptions can lead to unnecessary fears.
One of the biggest causes of assumptions that lead to fear in our lives is the question, “What if?” That “harmless” question is a catalyst for self-inflicted drama.
What if they don’t like me?
What if I get sick with Covid?
What if I lose my job?
What if Canada invades? :-)
What if…? (you fill in the bank).
Seldom (if ever) do “What if?” moments lead us to a place of joy, peace, and bliss.
In recent years, I’ve been able to gain control over many of my fears by learning to control my mind, which isn’t always easy. It’s a discipline that takes practice.
When I read and apply what the Bible says, “To take every thought captive,” I understand how vital that instruction is to creating my reality which can feel like hell.
Because truth or fiction, I believe what I think. And so do you. So when I’m making assumptions, I’m not seeing my life as it really is or not seeing life clearly at all.
Can you imagine all the emotional energy you’ve wasted based solely on making assumptions only to later realize the scenario was simply a nightmare you created?
If we can learn to capture thoughts and stop assuming, we can focus our attention on the truth, not on what we think is true. Freedom from fear is broken in your mind.
Ending the practice of making assumption isn’t a 12-step program. It’s a habit. And it’s as easy as telling yourself three simple truths every day. Yes, it can be this simple:
I am loved.
I am whole.
I am worthy.
Copy those truths down. Put them someplace where they stare you in the face (like your phone screen). Tell Siri to remind you of them every day at the same time.
Please go easy on yourself. Be patient as you begin. Shifting your perceptions takes time. Just imagine “What if?” might happen when you do stop making assumptions.
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